You must have a working relationship with God, that is to say that you cannot expect to experience the supernatural without engaging with the supernatural. You must submit your whole
being to the universe without boundaries, a universe in which the earth and the heavens are interconnected. God and space have no limits. When you pray for the dead, for instance, talk to them casually because they are listening. The sad reality is far few people take advantage of the Communion of Saints who are especially potent on their feast days.
If you are struggling in your prayer life , there is nothing better than to ask for assistance. And who better to ask then those who are already in the next life.
But you must also offer to God and the heavenly friends your efforts, your prayers, your sufferings. God can do little with a person who is unwilling to serve and do the necessary work for service.
you must in constant dialogue. Your inner dialogue ought to always be reaching upward, a mentality for the spiritual.